Why You Fail To Change

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Goals are highly motivating for many people. Not just fitness goals, but all types of goals can provide inspiration and direction: financial goals, relationship goals, and education goals, to name a few. So why is it that each year, right about this time, so many people are struggling with the New Year’s resolutions they made just a few weeks ago? Why doesn’t the motivation last long enough to achieve the goal?


Change is hard! We are creatures of habit and changing those habits is very difficult, especially when you go about it the wrong way. If you have been struggling to make lasting fitness and/or nutrition changes in your life, please read this post.

4 Reasons You Fail To Change

1. You Do Not Have A Clear Purpose (Find Your “Why?”)

Emotion drives change. Before you begin chasing a goal, you must first know why the goal matters to you. Why it REALLY matters to you. Think of it as defining your Mission Statement. For a company to be successful, it must have a clear reason for doing business. This statement of purpose is what unites and drives the organization to improve. Similarly, you must tap into the underlying emotion that is behind your goal. This emotion is what will keep you motivated when you’d rather go back to your old ways.

Setting a goal to lose 15 pounds in 6 months is fine, but it will not be motivating for long unless you can tap into the emotional reason behind the goal. For example,

“For months, I have been avoiding intimacy with my significant other. I want to lose 15 pounds so I can feel confident and attractive.”

Or possibly,

“I am going to get my blood sugar and cholesterol levels down to safe levels by July 1 because last week I received some bad news from my doctor. My numbers are dangerously out of line and I’m afraid I won’t live long enough to see my children grow up.” 

When presented this way, you can see how the underlying unhappiness, fear, insecurity, etc. would be a powerful motivator. You must find a way to tap into this force. Keep asking yourself “Why?” until you get to something important.

2. You Lack Specific Skills

Usually in order to perform a specific task, there are skills you must have first. Learning these specific skills takes practice and patience. In order to get out of debt, you first learn how to create a budget. Then you must learn to have enough discipline to stay within your budget.

Fitness is no different. The human body is an amazingly adaptive machine. It absolutely will change in response to a demand you place upon it. You must learn how to place the right kind of demand on your body to elicit a specific change. To speed up the process a little, you can utilize systems that guide you step-by-step and help you track your progress and make adjustments.

3. You Are Focused On The Outcome, Rather Than The Process

socrates build newThere is a very important distinction between outcome goals and process goals. The outcome goal is the end-result you ultimately desire. The process goals are the incremental daily steps that you will perform in order to achieve the outcome.

Let’s go back to our weight loss example where the outcome goal is to lose 15 pounds in 6 months. You must determine a series of steps that you must do to make it happen. For example, you first track your food and activity every day for the next three weeks to establish a baseline for each. Starting in week 4, you walk for 30 minutes 4 times a week while reducing your calories by 250 per day. I’m sure you see where I am going with this. You must remain focused on the daily activities and trust that the outcome will happen if you consistently follow the plan.

4. You Try To Do It Alone

Asking for help does not mean you are weak. It means you are smart. Athletes require a coach and training partners if they want to achieve their sports goals. People advance in their careers with the help of a mentor and their co-workers. Getting healthy and strong works exactly the same way.

You can learn from somebody who has more experience than you do and who has helped others make similar changes. Sometimes you need a coach to provide motivation when you are not “feeling it”. Sometimes you need a coach to recognize that you need a break, before you over-do it and injure yourself. With your busy schedule, you might just need a coach to set up a training plan for you so you have one less decision to make each day.

How much you enjoy an activity is the single most important factor in determining if you will perform the activity for a prolonged period of time. Very few people can slog through workouts day after day if they dislike the activity itself. In my opinion, being a part of a group or team will greatly increase the level of enjoyment you get from any activity. Whether it is walking, weight lifting, or basket weaving, find a group that you can join. Another option is to get a friend or two to train with you, in essence forming your own group. If you find yourself in a situation where you are not looking forward to your workouts and/or not enjoying the activity itself, my advice is to try a new activity and find a group.

Join the Sustainable Fitness Academy

What is it?

If you are ready to ask for help finding your purpose, learning the necessary skills, and focusing on the process, the ToddFit Sustainable Fitness Academy is specifically designed to help you learn to lead a healthier and happier life. You will be guided through a 6 month program that takes you step-by-step through your personalized nutrition and exercise plan. You will have access to me as your personal coach and together we will improve your mindset, motivation, and health.

Let’s be honest, nutrition is 75% of the battle when comes to your health, performance, and body composition. You will learn to filter out the nonsense from the media and instead eat clean and balanced meals. You will practice mindful eating to establish a healthy instinctive relationship with food.

Of course exercise is the other 25% of the battle. You will first learn to move well, then to move more often. We will focus on building fundamental muscle strength and energy systems which are the foundation for all future activities.

When combined, these new habits will have you well on your way to a life of health and adventure.

Here is a short list of what is included:

  • Health Consultation and Assessment
  • Personalized Nutrition and Exercise Plan
  • 24/7 Messaging System
  • Weekly Check-ins
  • All Required Apps and Tools
  • Extensive Exercise Video Library
  • 30-Day Risk Free Guarantee
Is it For You?

Committing your time, money, and energy into a fitness program is a significant effort. Here’s how to know if the Sustainable Fitness Academy is right for you:

  • You are ready to try something that is designed to create lasting change. You want to be healthier and happier one year from now than you are today.
  • You recognize there are no short-cuts, gadgets, pills, cleanses, or diets that will work in the long run. You will do the work to build habits.
  • You are willing to be patient and persistent. Following the program will make these changes easier but there will be challenges. You will bring consistent effort throughout the program.
  • You understand that a coach cannot help you if you deceive or withhold information. You are willing to communicate openly and honestly.



Featured Client – From Privately Stuck To Publicly Sweaty

It is my privilege to train some truly remarkable people. Every day I am amazed and inspired by them.  I decided it’s time to share their stories in the hope that others will also find them inspirational. If you are inspired by this story, I invite you to fill out the contact form at the end of this post, share this story on social media using the buttons provided below, and/or leave a comment on this post. Enjoy!

Meet Laura, a 35-year-old elementary school teacher living in Illinois. 

Just over one year ago, when Laura came to me for help, she was neither severely overweight, nor dangerously unhealthy. Rather, she was stuck in a place that many of us have been . . . stuck slogging her way alone through exercises she hated, or more often avoiding them altogether. Stuck slowly losing confidence and disliking how she looked and felt.

But Laura wasn’t ready to give up. She was determined to make a lasting change.

Laura’s Story

Q: What inspired you to start working out?

I have been an off and on “fitness” girl for years but it never really stuck until last January. I would spend my nights on the treadmill or elliptical and not see any results. That lead me to a gym membership that I paid for and didn’t use for a whole year. Well, I started to feel uncomfortable in my own skin due to some weight gain. I knew I needed something different. So, last January I joined Moose(L)-Up Gym and contacted Todd about his assistance in my new goal of fitness.

Q: What was the most difficult thing to change?

I was dying for a change so I jumped in with both feet. However, I had some insecurities and oddities to overcome though. For example, I had never really heavily perspired in front of another person. But now I sweat like a pig in front of Todd regularly as he puts me through crazy-fun workouts.

Q: Why do you think you have been successful at adopting sustainable fitness habits?

I think I have been successful because I followed the plan that Todd put together for me. The fact that I had someone to hold me accountable made me extra motivated. Also, with the circuit plan that I started with, I felt my energy level skyrocket immediately and my body started to change really quickly. I was motivated by the results and still am!

Q: What is your favorite healthy food? Not-so-healthy food?

My favorite healthy food is broccoli. No joke! I love it and I have it every day. My favorite not-so-healthy food is cheese fries. Oh man…

Q: If you were stranded on a deserted island and could only bring one exercise with you, which would you bring and why? Which exercise would you drown in the ocean and why?

My one exercise would be squats. I get them and they get me. I would absolutely drown push-ups! They are a hateful exercise! However, I do them… and grumble about them the whole time.

Q: What is your current fitness goal?


I have met all of my fitness goals for the past year. I participated in the Gladiator Assault Challenge, Aurora Duathlon, and ran the 10K Pumpkin Run! Those are 3 things I thought I would never be able to do. I also met my goal of an unassisted pull-up by my 35th birthday!

My new goals include improving my time in the Aurora Duathlon and working on specific muscle groups for a bit of body sculpting. I am also really enjoying the Olympic Lifting that I have been working on for the last 2 months. I hope to set a goal with that very soon.

Why Laura Was Successful

Determination: Laura is one of the most determined people I know. When she decides to do something, it happens. It’s not that she never doubted herself. There were moments when negative thoughts crept into her mind but she committed herself to following the plan as consistently as possible.

Planning and Patience: One of the first things we did when Laura hired me was create a plan to build a foundation of mobility and core strength. As she worked through these first difficult weeks, she began to recognize subtle changes in her appearance and ability. Her patient pursuit of incremental improvement enabled her to gradually adopt the Habits of Sustainable Fitness.

Things really started to gain momentum as she made the transition from fundamentals to fun. With a solid foundation in place, Laura began to explore new forms of exercise and set challenging performance goals for herself. Together, we designed a new plan utilizing a combination of ToddFit Online Coaching and ToddFit Private Coaching. Crushing her obstacle course, duathlon, 10K, and pull-up goals has given her the confidence to take on new challenges, including yoga and Olympic weight lifting.

Social Support: Laura is fortunate to have a large network of like-minded individuals who encourage and join her in her activities. Her husband shares Laura’s interest in exercise and they often train and compete together. In addition, several of her neighbors are also members of her gym, and/or yoga studio. At Moose(L)-Up the Olympic weight lifting group is fun and welcoming to lifters of all abilities.

How You Can Be Like Laura

Be ready to capitalize on a moment of inspiration. If you are always waiting for “the perfect time” to change your life, it will probably never happen. It just takes a minute of courage to take the first step.

If you are not sure where to start, or whether you can stay motivated, ask for help. Find an expert or mentor to guide you through the process. If you think a plan like the one Laura followed might work for you, fill out the contact form below and we’ll see if ToddFit Sustainable Fitness is right for you.

Be patient and committed. There are no short cuts or magic pills. Follow a systematic program to gradually adopt as many healthy habits as you can.