Why You Fail To Change

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Goals are highly motivating for many people. Not just fitness goals, but all types of goals can provide inspiration and direction: financial goals, relationship goals, and education goals, to name a few. So why is it that each year, right about this time, so many people are struggling with the New Year’s resolutions they made just a few weeks ago? Why doesn’t the motivation last long enough to achieve the goal?


Change is hard! We are creatures of habit and changing those habits is very difficult, especially when you go about it the wrong way. If you have been struggling to make lasting fitness and/or nutrition changes in your life, please read this post.

4 Reasons You Fail To Change

1. You Do Not Have A Clear Purpose (Find Your “Why?”)

Emotion drives change. Before you begin chasing a goal, you must first know why the goal matters to you. Why it REALLY matters to you. Think of it as defining your Mission Statement. For a company to be successful, it must have a clear reason for doing business. This statement of purpose is what unites and drives the organization to improve. Similarly, you must tap into the underlying emotion that is behind your goal. This emotion is what will keep you motivated when you’d rather go back to your old ways.

Setting a goal to lose 15 pounds in 6 months is fine, but it will not be motivating for long unless you can tap into the emotional reason behind the goal. For example,

“For months, I have been avoiding intimacy with my significant other. I want to lose 15 pounds so I can feel confident and attractive.”

Or possibly,

“I am going to get my blood sugar and cholesterol levels down to safe levels by July 1 because last week I received some bad news from my doctor. My numbers are dangerously out of line and I’m afraid I won’t live long enough to see my children grow up.” 

When presented this way, you can see how the underlying unhappiness, fear, insecurity, etc. would be a powerful motivator. You must find a way to tap into this force. Keep asking yourself “Why?” until you get to something important.

2. You Lack Specific Skills

Usually in order to perform a specific task, there are skills you must have first. Learning these specific skills takes practice and patience. In order to get out of debt, you first learn how to create a budget. Then you must learn to have enough discipline to stay within your budget.

Fitness is no different. The human body is an amazingly adaptive machine. It absolutely will change in response to a demand you place upon it. You must learn how to place the right kind of demand on your body to elicit a specific change. To speed up the process a little, you can utilize systems that guide you step-by-step and help you track your progress and make adjustments.

3. You Are Focused On The Outcome, Rather Than The Process

socrates build newThere is a very important distinction between outcome goals and process goals. The outcome goal is the end-result you ultimately desire. The process goals are the incremental daily steps that you will perform in order to achieve the outcome.

Let’s go back to our weight loss example where the outcome goal is to lose 15 pounds in 6 months. You must determine a series of steps that you must do to make it happen. For example, you first track your food and activity every day for the next three weeks to establish a baseline for each. Starting in week 4, you walk for 30 minutes 4 times a week while reducing your calories by 250 per day. I’m sure you see where I am going with this. You must remain focused on the daily activities and trust that the outcome will happen if you consistently follow the plan.

4. You Try To Do It Alone

Asking for help does not mean you are weak. It means you are smart. Athletes require a coach and training partners if they want to achieve their sports goals. People advance in their careers with the help of a mentor and their co-workers. Getting healthy and strong works exactly the same way.

You can learn from somebody who has more experience than you do and who has helped others make similar changes. Sometimes you need a coach to provide motivation when you are not “feeling it”. Sometimes you need a coach to recognize that you need a break, before you over-do it and injure yourself. With your busy schedule, you might just need a coach to set up a training plan for you so you have one less decision to make each day.

How much you enjoy an activity is the single most important factor in determining if you will perform the activity for a prolonged period of time. Very few people can slog through workouts day after day if they dislike the activity itself. In my opinion, being a part of a group or team will greatly increase the level of enjoyment you get from any activity. Whether it is walking, weight lifting, or basket weaving, find a group that you can join. Another option is to get a friend or two to train with you, in essence forming your own group. If you find yourself in a situation where you are not looking forward to your workouts and/or not enjoying the activity itself, my advice is to try a new activity and find a group.

Join the Sustainable Fitness Academy

What is it?

If you are ready to ask for help finding your purpose, learning the necessary skills, and focusing on the process, the ToddFit Sustainable Fitness Academy is specifically designed to help you learn to lead a healthier and happier life. You will be guided through a 6 month program that takes you step-by-step through your personalized nutrition and exercise plan. You will have access to me as your personal coach and together we will improve your mindset, motivation, and health.

Let’s be honest, nutrition is 75% of the battle when comes to your health, performance, and body composition. You will learn to filter out the nonsense from the media and instead eat clean and balanced meals. You will practice mindful eating to establish a healthy instinctive relationship with food.

Of course exercise is the other 25% of the battle. You will first learn to move well, then to move more often. We will focus on building fundamental muscle strength and energy systems which are the foundation for all future activities.

When combined, these new habits will have you well on your way to a life of health and adventure.

Here is a short list of what is included:

  • Health Consultation and Assessment
  • Personalized Nutrition and Exercise Plan
  • 24/7 Messaging System
  • Weekly Check-ins
  • All Required Apps and Tools
  • Extensive Exercise Video Library
  • 30-Day Risk Free Guarantee
Is it For You?

Committing your time, money, and energy into a fitness program is a significant effort. Here’s how to know if the Sustainable Fitness Academy is right for you:

  • You are ready to try something that is designed to create lasting change. You want to be healthier and happier one year from now than you are today.
  • You recognize there are no short-cuts, gadgets, pills, cleanses, or diets that will work in the long run. You will do the work to build habits.
  • You are willing to be patient and persistent. Following the program will make these changes easier but there will be challenges. You will bring consistent effort throughout the program.
  • You understand that a coach cannot help you if you deceive or withhold information. You are willing to communicate openly and honestly.



Top 3 Reasons You Need To Include Lateral Exercises In Your Program

Sadly, lateral movement is often neglected when it comes to exercise programs. We spend most of our time training our lower bodies to move forward, backward, up, and down, but we forget to include lateral exercises. Whether you are an elite athlete, weekend warrior, or simply want to look great naked, lateral exercises are amazing and necessary.

This is so important that I have started an awareness campaign I call “Lateral Wednesday.” I encourage all my clients, student athletes, and friends to participate. #LateralWednesday is a social media reminder for you to include a lateral exercise at least once each week on Wednesday.

Here are the Top 3 Reasons you need to include lateral exercises in your exercise program:

  1. You will like the shape it gives to your rear end and thighs.
  2. You will have better balance to avoid slipping and/or falling.
  3. You will decrease the chances of knee injury (ACL tears, etc) by preventing knee valgus.

If these reasons seem important to you (and why wouldn’t they?), please read on. Below are some videos demonstrating my favorite lateral movement exercises. If that’s not enough, and you REALLY want to get your nerd on, you can read about the specific muscles involved. Check it out and perform at least one of these exercises TODAY!

Lateral Exercises

Which muscles are involved in lateral movement?

Side Butt: Lateral movements strengthen the Gluteus Medius, Gluteus Minimus, and Tensor Fasciae Latae (TFL) on the outside (lateral side) of the hips.


Inner Thigh (Groin): In addition, lateral movements strengthen the Adductor Longus, Adductor Brevis, Adductor Magnus, and Gracilis in the inside (medial side) of the thigh.

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A Clear Voice Amidst the Noise

The fitness world is over-run with so-called professionals who claim to be looking out for your health and well being. Too many of them are busy shouting confusing and contradictory messages, making it is almost impossible to know who is trying to help and who is trying to take your money. I am adding my voice to those, and hoping that my simple message can help people become the best possible version of themselves. I hope you enjoy my message and that it helps you lead a more fulfilling and active life.